On Being Wanted and Worthy
According to the Office on Women's Health, one in two pregnancies in America are unplanned. The adoptee brain often translates the word "unplanned" into its cultural predecessor, "unwanted." From there, it is a short hop to "unworthy" -- of love, happiness, success, relationships, self-esteem -- the good stuff in life. This can be further complicated by the realization that when adoptive parents said, "We wanted you," it usually meant "we wanted a baby and you were availabl
