Guest Blog: You don't know what you've lost 'til you've found it!
Some thoughts on Mother/ Adult Child reunions. After more than 30 years of talking to and guiding adoptees and their birth parents while in search, and while in reunion, I’m starting to get the “long” view of how these interactions and intersections work. And of course, like most things in life, as soon as you try to pin something down and try to make a definite statement about it, the thing slips away and changes and you have to consider yet another twist to the story and it
Adoption Ethics Extend Far Beyond Secrets and Obligations
Recent letters written by parents who relinquished children for adoption have appeared in widely read newspaper columns by "Ask Amy" (from a father who impregnated his girlfriend at age 16) and ethicist Kwame Anthony Appiah (from a woman who relinquished "many decades ago"). The common thread woven into both letters was secrecy, shame, and the implied, or at least assumed, quid pro quo "bargain" struck between birth/first parents and the people who adopt their children: If I
