Embarking on a search for unknown relatives calls for some preparation and self - insight. Why are you doing this? What are your hopes, fears and expectations? How do you envision handling the potential best- and worst-case outcomes? Reality usually lands somewhere in between the two. Have you read any books to prepare? Do you have a good support system, such as a local or online group and the name of an adoption-competent counselor, should you decide you need one? Do you have the resources to follow through on a journey that could take a day, a month, a year, or more?
Suggested Options for Further Reading:
Adoptees Come of Age by Ron Nydam
A Man and His Mothers by Tim Green
Birthright: the Guide to Search and Reunion by Jean Strauss
Hole in My Heart by Lorraine Dusky
Journey of the Adopted Self by Betty Jean Lifton
Lost and Found by Betty Jean Lifton
Primal Wound by Nancy Verrier
Shadow Train by Patricia Taylor
The Adoptee Survival Guide, Lynn Grubb, ed.
The Adoption Reunion Survival Guide by Julie Jarrell Bailey and Lynn Giddens
The Girls Who Went Away by Anne Fessler
The Other Mother by Carol Schaefer
Twice Born by Michael Reagan